Under The Mistletoe is...
Being surrounded and encased with the tingling, everlasting
gift of the magic of Christmas that is unexplainable, inexplicable, guaranteed
and a feeling that runs deeper than our souls, brighter than the most brilliant
smile and more fulfilling than the most memorable Thanksgiving dinner. It is
for many, the greatest love we have or will ever know.
Under the Mistletoe is the fairy dust that lands on our
heads and in our hearts when we see the first strung up lights, hear the first
Christmas Carol on the Radio or open the first Christmas card from Grandma.
Under the spell of Saint Nicholas that reminds us that each gift, each party
and every Macy's Parade is the reminder that we DO love, we CARE and inside we
are all children who treasure a unity where wars, hatred, guns, drugs,
violence, jealousy, misunderstandings and cruelty CEASE...once a year, and love
for each other prevails as we all hug family members, co-workers, neighbors and
even a few strangers...trying to reassure all
the special people in our lives and in the world, (BECAUSE WE ARE ALL
VERY SPECIAL AND UNIQUE), that we are not alone.
The divine mistletoe makes us drop our money in a bucket
next to a smiling bell ringer to help make our communities a better and happier
place to live. ONLY if we could spend the other 364 days as if we were always
Under The Mistletoe.
Under The Mistletoe is having gifts like a remarkable child
in The Autism Spectrum who battles each day to come out of the darkness and
somehow, on December 25th each year, he fully jumps out through his eyes, squeals
of joy and endearing hugs to show us all that Mistletoe magic is what cures and
helps to heal every shattered life, spirit, broken heart, crumbled dream,
unexplained disorder or insidious disease. The Season of Mistletoe it is the
beginning of another new cycle where HOPE, the fuel that keeps us going in the
face of hardships, is refilled once again.
If Justin Bieber could just possibly know that my son is
standing behind me, on his IPAD, replaying Under The Mistletoe over and over,
reading the lyrics I printed off...and with his severely Apraxic and usually
barely intelligible speech disturbance...in a clear, LOUD and WONDROUS
voice...my genius, amazing, 5 year old Autistic son is singing Under The
Mistletoe...each and every word! Less than 1 1/2 years ago, he had only 2
words, NOW he is READING and singing hundreds of new words! Please go to www.AutismBattle.com The home page
entitled GROUND ZERO is the place to meet Dezi. He chose Justin's CD this past
week over every movie and CD in the store…and every toy in the universe! He is Justin's biggest fan! He even says it's
OK that Selena doesn't marry him because Justin is awesome, (really!)...he
still thinks perhaps Selena would consider marrying him AND Justin! I’m still
trying to explain…(lol!)
Although it's a VERY rough first draft, I wish that Justin
would please go to YouTube, Charlie Hackett Circus Performer...and find the
zirkuskat page, then listen to Dezi's Song...and consider recording it. or the
1 in 30 boys now being born with Autistic Spectrum Disorders and the 1 in 50
girls with the same...only Justin has the crystal voice, the heart and the
attention to deliver this song about Autism that will give hope YEAR ROUND to
the world. We need to help the parents, the caregivers and the loved ones of
the children with Autistic Spectrum Disorders, (ASD), which includes Asperger’s...who
grow up to be Tom Hanks, Bill Gates, Dr. Temple Grandin, James Durbin, Elvis, Marilyn,
Einstein, Orson Wells, Andy Warhol, Michelangelo, Daryl Hannah, James Taylor,
my son Dezi and so many other Autistics...and finally deliver a banner song for
Autism. Dezi’s Song is an inspiring, powerful, emotional and needed message
that will bring a Mistletoe ray of hope to us all...the 90 million already
diagnosed Autistics...and the countless numbers that are hidden in the other
80% of the population who are undiagnosed.
Let us open our hearts to the parents and loved ones of the
Autistic kids who GLOBALLY die each day from drowning, wandering and falling
from heights, (AWAARE). We must be made aware of the tragedies that never
should have happened to parents like John Travolta and Kelly Preston for their
son, Jett, or to Angie Dickinson and Burt Bacharach for their beautiful
daughter Nikki.
How scary the world must be right now for all the children with
Autism who have lost their parent, caregiver or loved one, like Phoebe Snow's
daughter Valerie Rose. Phoebe refused to institutionalize her precious daughter
and dedicated her life to healing and learning to help her.
The Awareness of truth about ASD will help Autistic kids who
struggle every day in a world that only sees DISABILITIES, not ABILITIES, like
Sylvester Stallone’s son Sergeoh or my son Dezi.
The numbers will never get lower and the prediction of all
boys being affected (or ‘GIFTED’ depending on how much Awareness you possess,...if
not with Autism, then Tourette's, OCD, ODD, Bi-Polar, ADD, ADHD, etc...Combined
with a predisposition to be the most talented, brilliant, beautiful and gifted
geniuses and savants throughout history!
SEND THE MESSAGE OUT JUSTIN! The gloom and doom message is
only to coerce people to buy books, try diets that have no effect, put their
kids through guinea pig life threatening or painful therapies, push
psychotropic medications, institutionalize, drain their bank accounts on DVDs
and lectures to learn and help. We donate monies which only go to pay high
administration fees in Societies which RARELY GIVE NEEDED THINGS LIKE IPADS OR
ABA THERAPY TO THE KIDS OR THEIR FAMILIES.
We MUST consider the billion dollar Autism Therapy market
that WASN'T there when Tom Hanks, Dr. Grandin, Elvis or Einstein...and the
millions of others over the course of history who MADE IT THROUGH to lead
functional lives...for FREE.
The gift Justin has is no less miraculous than the magic of
Mistletoe...I can only hope and pray that he would use it to sing Dezi's Song
and bring attention to the TRUTH about Autism. There are concessions for the Blind and Deaf found
almost everywhere, wheelchair accessibilities for the handicapped and so forth,
the world will start to build quiet rooms, fund gifted and talented scholarships,
demand and provide early screening and follow up with correct therapy,
(ABA...Applied Behavior Analysis), build restaurants with the unique taste
preferences of the persons with ASD and perhaps even therapeutic playrooms
instead of unrestricted kids running everywhere, and to do everything we possibly
can to prepare the world for persons with Autism. We must make our threatening
world into an understanding magical world of HOPE every day of the year.
Dezi’s website www.AutismBattle.com is also Mistletoe
because it talks of HEALING, (The Mary Poppins therapy), FACTS, SIGNS,
RESEARCH, CELEBRITIES, CAUSE, CORRECT TREATMENTS, REAL STORIES, LOVE and HOPE
and is completely FREE to everyone! www.AutismBattle.com is NOT selling
products, gimmicks, or jump on the bandwagon frivolous lawsuits which ultimately
hurt those who need our help.
A billion dollar industry now exists that sells hardly more
than re-inventions of a wheel already set in stone OR complete bogus,
unfounded, disproven or blatant lies ALL which keep us confused and spinning in
circles while the children ages of maximum treatment impact, (called Early
Intervention), at 3-5 years of age, are tragically missed! Applied Behavior Analysis, ABA MUST occur
using 40 hours a week of one on one, intensive therapy provided free to the
caregivers through the school districts. Recent legal decisions in Tennessee
and Virginia show that the Courts, though slow in Awareness, are finally coming
around! ABA, once only research based, is NOW evidence based and being embraced
at a high Court level. 42 states collect hefty Autism stimulus from the federal
government and do NOT give therapy in the schools.
Worse are the states where Autism and Asperger’s, (still
sometimes referred to separately), are not included in health care at all. How
horrible that the realization of functionality versus dysfunction is still not
recognized. 8 states do appropriate and accommodating early intervention.
Numerous families continue weekly to migrate to these states as Awareness is
spreading and the excess is causing even those 8 states to run short in both
school and community resources.
This costly and wasteful imbalance will stop when ONLY those
agencies and schools which offer ABA, (40 hours a week, parent training, one methodology
get the stimulus. This will also cause the other 42 to get on the ball and stop
getting the kids to a level 2 or 3 when they can almost all be 10’s! Setting
the bar so low is developmentally detrimental in every way. IPADs, XBOX with Kinect
technology, V Tech V Smile and V Tech V Readers are just a few examples in my
own research of technology that will help these kids, (and adults). Those who
scoff suffer from severe shortsightedness. It is far better to spend a half
million on each child than the between 33 and 70 million depending upon the
medical needs of the individual.
The public wants to help and the false spread of doom is an
unnecessary and unfair practice. It is important when helping a cause to look
deeply into the platforms and practices of the agencies. There will be many
very upset when they find out who has been benefitting from the millions
already donated. Government and Private parties alike are being duped.
Further, people need to know WHERE to donate! Millions are
given to organizations that wouldn’t give my son a dime! Give to community
organizations, directly to families, ask the schools if you can ‘adopt’ a
family for Christmas and help with gifts and food, give to Organizations like AUTISM
SPEAKS who help, educate, provide, research, listen and advocate, Autism Speaks
is another Mistletoe.
Renowned, brilliant and GENEROUS Autistic Bill Gates, by way
of The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation are the driving force behind cures of
not just Autism, but farmers, schools, medical research, Mentally, Developmentally
and Physically disabled needs of every kind…they are Mistletoe. Mistletoe is the
media responsible for allowing me to be Dezi's voice until his can be heard
clearly and intelligibly… just like it is right now while he sings along with you,
Justin
Under The Mistletoe, (except for showing my age by not
knowing what “shawty” means), is a wonderful, meaningful song which has a
positive meaning and I found myself singing right along. Justin is a role model
and big hearted young man who carries sincerity and puts it out through his God
given voice. ...YOU and your voice are Mistletoe Justin Bieber, just ask Dezi!
I wish you could give my 5 year old, who is UNIQUE LIKE
EVERYONE and wants to either be The President, (like Abraham Lincoln, Thomas
Jefferson and others who had Autism), OR , (like Elvis, James Taylor , Wolfgang
Amadeus Mozart, James Durbin, and so
many other great singer entertainers with Autism), Dezi, wants to be a “Rock
Star.” This is BECAUSE of Selena Gomez, The Jonas Brothers AND Justin.
I wish he could give Dezi a huge high five, a hug, a kiss on
the forehead, a pat on the back for battling like a warrior and DEFEATING his
own Autism! He will always be Autistic and that never changes HOWEVER, the
difference in methodology and the age appropriate time it is began WILL mean
the difference between a functional and independent life or a dysfunctional existence
requiring assistance and protection or in huge percentages, undiagnosed, mistreated and/or
untreated persons with ASD can be found in prisons, mental institutions or
dead. We MUST change the Myths about Autism! After going to www.AutismBattle.com and reading the
list of famous persons with Autism, I realized that rather than a gloom and
doom prognosis, we would be on a pirates treasure hunt to find each child’s
unique area of genius or savant gifts. The man who discovered Autism, Dr. Hans Asperger’s
referred to the unique boys as “little professors”! This is hardly a depressing
outlook. Today, the internet has hubs of Social Networking sites for 'Aspies'
as they have self titled! This is hardly a depressing outlook. Whereas it was
once believed that only 1.5-2% possessed extraordinary gifts, (like Rainman
they were referred to as Idiot Savants but it was changed to Autistic Savants),
we now know that ALL, (with the small
percentage of low functioning persons with ASD…which simply means an IQ under
80), persons with ASD have probable savant areas! The trick is to find that
area and find it early on. This is where the IPAD, an endless resource where
someone can surf and seek out their ’niche’ should be in the hands of every
child within the spectrum! No parent, teacher, caregiver or therapist can
possibly know engineering, math, science, music, art, or any of the other areas
where their legacy has shown they will be the brightest and the best! These
children these amazing people with Autism, they ARE the World’s Mistletoe!
Mishandled, misdiagnosed and/or mistreated, the list begins
with JEFFREY DAHMER and ADOLPH HITLER. We cannot afford to stay in the dark, do
nothing, take risks with their lives and futures…and the future of our
communities and world as we know it.
The numbers are increasing at a rate unparalleled and
EVERYONE putting false information out there which interrupts correct knowledge
and CURE should be criminally held accountable! (See The Jen McCarthy Body
Count web site). They are NOT Mistletoe! Ms. McCarthy was deemed a menace to
our children and society years ago by the CDC and Board of Pediatricians YET
her book remains on the shelf and is still touted as a good resource! Why isn’t
she calling Oprah and Ellen to tell the truth? Why is there information that
her son NEVER HAD AUTISM to begin with? It is presumed he has Landau-Kleffner
Disorder which early resembles Autism BUT there is a full recovery minus a lingering
seizure tendency. Further in her ‘esteemed’ experiment, are we not to realize
that what are more apt to draw a child out of darkness and WANT to participate
in life are The Pet Detective and not a yucky glass of rice milk?
Shame on everyone who continues the GFCF Diet promises and
KNOWS that it makes NO DIFFERENCE! Clearly, if your child is allergic to glutens
then don’t give them to him. If my child is allergic to strawberries I won’t
give them to him either. That HOWEVER does NOT heal or treat Autism! These kids
have terrible digestion because they are either starch junkies or have The
Gustatory Disorder, (Picky eater). Get them on supplements and they begin to
thrive.
The diet wasn’t around when Isaac Newton, Emily Dickinson or
Andy Warhol, W. B. Yeats or Orson Wells were battling and learning to function
with their Autism! The Gluten Free Casein Free diet as a means to chelate the
body, (in a body with average to high levels of testosterone), was DISPROVEN 5
years before Ms. Jen was born when many of our boys returned from Vietnam full
of Agent Orange, (their symptoms strongly resembled many ASD behaviors and
disorders), and their bodies COULD NOT be reduced of metals!
Why?
Testosterone, which we ALL have, is a MAGNET for heavy
metals! Estrogen and Progesterone are not. That’s why Autism, ADD, ADHD,
Sensory Dysfunctions, Tourette’s, Parkinson’s, etc…are predominantly in MALES.
The only females affected are those with higher levels of testosterone. This is
the ‘tom boy’ type who climbs trees and isn’t afraid to put a worm on a fishing
hook.
In 1980, Autism was thought to be 1 in 10,000. Today, despite
what the US Media is telling us, Autism is NOT 1 in 100, Globally, Autism is
believed to be 1 in 30 and rising. I do
not believe the 1980 number is accurate. I believe that Autism has definitely risen
BUT it’s the awareness and screening techniques that have improved. Anti-Social
behaviors or ‘shyness’, Sensory Issues like picky eaters, those who cannot
tolerate certain fabrics touching them or refuse to try new foods, those who
are perfectionists and prefer to line toys up side by side rather than play
with them as neuro-typicals do, the ‘geeks’ and brainiacs, the ‘eccentric’, etc…these
could well have all been persons affected with ASD who had the support to mimic
typical behaviors and eventually fit in.
Amazing that the list of persons with Spectrum Disorders are
rarely seen in news rags showing a lifestyle of going out to clubs or being
seen in large gatherings. They may have been speaking to them, singing to them
or working amongst them BUT they all preferred one on one social grouping or
just staying home and well away from the crowds. I am certain that most of us
have many friends, family members, alumni, co-workers and /or Social Networking
friends with ASD. So, the answer?
Moms are the greatest Mistletoe of all! Moms used to stay
home. Moms set routines like washing hands before dinner, homework before play,
limited hours in front of the television and expectations on their kids.
Correct treatment for Autism as embraced by The Surgeon General in 1999 IS ABA
or Applied Behavior Analysis. Behavioral modifications are what is being used
successfully and what stay home mommies did best.
The rise in numbers is supported by the rise in metals in
our environment and the rise of moms having to leave their kids in day cares or
home alone in order to work. It all makes sense. There is another key element
having to do with the Birth Control that cannot be filtered out of our drinking
water and makes our wombs imbalanced with too much Estrogen and Progesterone thereby
causing the fetus’s to balance by making too much testosterone. Whammo…the
perfect storm. Why do we think we are suddenly seeing signs urging us to STOP
flushing medications and to throw them away? Perhaps if we stopped witch
hunting and suing everyone we could address the real causes.
Let’s take the Mistletoe into our hearts and begin the
changes and awareness we need so kids like Jett Travolta and Nikki Bacharach
don’t have to have such tragic and totally preventable deaths.
My son has been asking me if I could make him meet Justin
Bieber. I wish for my perfectly created son who can, at 5, read at a 7th
grade level and identify and spell things like a rhombus, isosceles triangle, a
cone, pyramid and cube, do 3rd grade math, play board games and
memorize and spell every name of every classmate, every television show on
Disney or Nickelodeon or sing every word to Strange Things from Toy Story and
Under The Mistletoe…AND who happens to have Autism, to be blessed with gift of friendship
from the boy who inspires my son to SING and DEVELOP his voice. Can anyone
manage to let Justin know about Dezi? www.AutismBattle.com
is about Dezi and his life…and about the truth of Autism.
Defeating Autism and meeting Justin Bieber, (who Dezi wants
to take him to Pizza planet), would be his greatest gifts Under the Mistletoe!
Merry Christmas Justin Bieber and thank you for the light you shine on Dezi,
our family and so many others around the globe.
Please help us, with Dezi’s Song and with the truth about
ASD, use your gift to bring Awareness, Hope and Healing to these amazing humans
beings. I know that you could reach out where so many others are failing up
against those who would rather the lights never come on in the darkness! Blessings
to Justin Bieber, everyone whose life is blessed with ASD and to the world who
for the most part, stops all hatred on the one most special day of the year…to
partake in the joy The Mistletoe holds and brings to us all!
